Why are women so mean?

Seriously.  Why have women gotten the reputation as gossips, being jealous, eye scratching, hair pulling, I will cut you crazies?? Because we are.  You have been in the situation, sitting around a table or in a vehicle with a bunch of ladies and here is how the conversation goes:

Thelma "Oh my gosh you guys I forgot to tell you! Ok (dramatic pause) ok so I was getting my hair done and Sarah walks in and you remember how she used to be so heavy and now she has lost a ton of weight!"

Andrea "like that is going to make a difference!  Did you hear she got a boob job, like that's going to keep her husband from cheating"

Thelma "Right!"


Ok so that was blatantly mean and not a conversation I have heard.  But I have heard people say:

"Oh my gosh I love Rachel but...."
"You know I love Sarah but...."

I'm guilty of it too!  I try very hard NOT to talk about other people, especially because I try to live by a policy not to say anything about another person that A) isn't true or witnessed myself B) something I wouldn't say to their face C) Gossip.  I look up the definition of gossip;

1. casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. 

A lot of times gossip is about private matters, maybe a husband's preference for the bottle, or a women's gambling problem.  Gossip is normally whispered and isn't something you would want the subject to hear.  

Gossip has affected me.  I was hanging out on my birthday with some friends we had just started get close to.  After a couple...sodas...my friends told me what another woman said about me here is what my friend told me:

Erica (my friend)" yeah we are going to hang out with Katie and Joe tonight, you guys should come"

Erin "the accused gossiper)"I don't know why you guys are hanging out with them, Katie won't stop texting my husband and is trying to get together with him.  Carl is getting really mad and I am about to do something about it"

Erica "Oh, well I have never would have thought Katie would do that"

Erin "Oh yeah she texts him all the time"

When Erica told me about this my jaw had to be picked up off the floor.  I got that awful, embarrassed feeling.  You know the one where it feels like your face is bright red and tingly.  Worst of all you feel like EVERYONE can see this look on your face.  I pulled out my cell phone and handed it to her and told her I didn't even have Carl's number.  I tried to explain what she said was untrue but alas....it had been put out there...

That is the problem and rumors and gossip!  Once someone hears gossip about another person it taints their opinion of them. Even though I have made friends with Erin (using my you can't hate me unless I hate you first approach) I still feel like that rumor is still out and swirling around.

Here is what the Bible says about gossip in Psalm 101:5 "Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure." We can feel it in our heart of hearts whispering and gossiping about each other is wrong.  But we all still do it, myself included.

Growing up my parents always told me the age old saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"  That is a nice motto, but it's bologna.  Words do hurt! Women, why do we insist on bringing each other down to make ourselves feel better?  There is a woman I have known for over a year.  I've never been really close to her because anytime I see her she seems as though she is REALLY angry.  She is putting out this serious "STAY AWAY FROM ME!" vibe.  Over the last year I have had pleasant conversations with her, then I will see her in a different situations the vibe is back.  I determined very recently, she is shy and seems to not do well in large group settings.  It's very similar to what I had been dealing with in regards to my social anxiety.  Now I wonder what kind of vibe I was sending out.  Because as I was sitting in 

I really searched my soul recently and tried to deal with the green monster that is jealousy.  

If a man doesn't like another man he doesn't go around talking about how ugly Gary's shoes are or how that top make Larry look fat.  No guys just ignore the ones they don't like.  If there is someone who happens to be a jerk or maybe a dork fish (watch this Bill Engval video I can't take credit for coining the word dork fish) out of the bunch the guys I know just ignore them or rib them to their face.  They tell Larry that he is being a jerk.  Or they tell Don he's kind of a dork fish.